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What is Resilience?

May 26, 2020

Eric Dean Having worked with many clients who are struggling with addiction and decide to enter treatment, I have seen numerous examples of remarkable courage, strength, and resilience. When I talk with others about how they define resilience, I often hear a similar response: “the ability to bounce back.” This is partially correct. Absolutely, resilience is the ability to bounce back from adverse situations and experiences. But resilience has another component in addition to the ability to…

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What to Do When You Think Therapy is Not Working for You

May 24, 2020

Shannon M. Duffy, MFT, LCPC Making the decision to enter therapy is tough enough and we intend to have an overall positive and impactful experience. However, when we get to a place where we feel it is not working for us that can cause more distress and bring on doubt about feeling optimistic towards getting better. Feeling frustrated within therapy can be helpful to assess what is not working and what is working but not at the…

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Four Ways to Be Realistic about Self-Care

May 22, 2020

Danielle Bertini, LPC Self-care is a topic that has received a considerable amount of attention over recent years, especially in fields like health care and human services. However, many people still struggle to not only understand the topic, but to also know how to get enough of it. Dr. King (2019) offers four rules to help you stay on track with self-care. Rule #1: Self-care includes self-talk. A big issue people find with trying to incorporate more…

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A Reason for Being

May 20, 2020

Eric Dean JD, MBA, MA, MA, LPC, CADC Licensed Professional Counselor Many people enter therapy because of stress related to their jobs and careers, oftentimes due to being unfulfilled and frustrated in their current line of work. Career dissatisfaction is widely experienced and can have adverse consequences that impact other areas of life, including relationships. This is a concept I call spillover – when problems in one part of life carry over into other areas. For example,…

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Practicing Self-Care in Quarantine

May 19, 2020

Prior to when all of this started, many of us found ourselves in need of a break. We were overwhelmed, and going to work for long hours, trying to tend to the needs of our friends and families, staying active and making “good” choices with food, cooking, cleaning, and commuting, all while trying to find time for “fun.” During that time, we were encouraged to slow down… to take the time we needed to prioritize time spent…

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Trust and Commitment Within a Relationship

May 18, 2020

John and Julie Gottman, known somewhat as the leaders in the couples’ therapy world, created a book consisting of eight dates essential for every couple to have. Each date is a different topic consisting of varying questions for both self-exploration and conversation starters. Each topic of conversation is crucial for the continued development of a healthy relationship. Regardless of what stage of a relationship you’re in, whether you’ve been married for 30 years or recently began dating,…

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How to Embrace Uncertainty and Become Decisive

May 16, 2020

Steven Topper, LCPC On 1.3.2020, an esteemed colleague wrote a blog on the pitfalls of uncertainty. In it, Gideon describes how uncertainty can lead to self-sabotage through limiting beliefs about ourselves and offered strategies to help mitigate these beliefs. In response, it could be helpful to explore how leaning in to uncertainty may actually be beneficial for us in the long run, and how allowing for ambiguity to exist in our lives may offer directions toward richer,…

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6 Questions to Ask Yourself Before You Seek Out New Friends

May 14, 2020

Let’s be honest: it was easier to make friends as a child. Your life was scheduled in a way that constantly encouraged you to  meet and socialize with other children. Now, all that is gone and you’re left to find your own methods for making friends as an adult. A common question is How do I make friends as an adult? However, there are things that you should consider before you start to create a plan of…

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What’s Your Attachment Style?

May 12, 2020

Amanda Ann Gregory, LCPC, EMDR Certified  If you want to improve your relationships, it might be helpful to identify your style of attachment. Your attachment style usually manifests in childhood and impacts your attachment patterns as an adult. The four types of attachment styles are secure, avoidant, anxious, and disorganized.  Do you know which style of attachment is yours? In order to identify your style, you should look for patterns of how you function and feel in…

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Attachment Figures Who Aren’t Your Parents

May 10, 2020

Amanda Ann Gregory, LCPC, EMDR Certified An “attachment figure” is just what it sounds like: a figure to whom you attach. It was once thought that your main attachment figures were your parents. But the more we learn about attachment, the more we realize that people don’t just attach to their parents but attach to a variety of different figures in their lives. In fact, some people do not attach to their biological parents at all. Why?…

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