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What Is Traumatic Grief and How Can I Cope With It? Part 1

December 15, 2020

I work with many clients who have experienced grief in their life. Whether it is a loss of a family member, loss of an event in their life, loss of a relationship, or maybe a loss of someone they cared about who unfortunately passed away in a traumatic way. My job as my clients’ clinician is to help identify terms for them, such as traumatic loss, with the hopes that identifying terms, the client and I can…

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How Can I Redefine Success?

December 14, 2020

I work with many clients who are experiencing anxiety related to the current state of the world in 2020. Prior to the pandemic, many clients in sessions would speak to what their goals were, what success looked like to them, and how they could reach their goals.   I recently have been speaking to my clients about the idea of redefining success right now. There are certain things in life that are much more challenging than prior to…

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COVID-19: How Is Children’s Mental Health Affected?

December 12, 2020

Melanie Lustbader, LPC  PART 1 In March of 2020, everything changed for the worst. This has been a stressful year for everyone, including children. The COVID-19 global pandemic has brought increased anxiety and stress. Adults and children have been pulled from their normal routine and have had significant changes to their lifestyle.  Fear and Anxiety When a child faces significant change it can possibly cause fear and anxiety. Tolerating uncertainty is scary, even for children who typically…

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Cognitive Distortions, Part II: What Can I Do About Them?

December 3, 2020

Bridgette W. Gottwald, LPC, NCC Here we are still talking about that negative thought loop and thinking errors that we refer to as cognitive distortions. Remember my last blog post that included examples of ten common cognitive distortions? I left off discussing magnifying or minimizing, and here’s part two and the continued list of cognitive distortions. Mental filter  With a mental filter, negative events are focused on and positive events are disregarded or filtered out. We have…

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Cognitive Distortions, Part I: What Are They and How Do I Identify Them?

December 2, 2020

Bridgette W. Gottwald, LPC, NCC Next time you are experiencing negative thinking, take a moment to check your thoughts, notice, and make some observations. More often than not, you will find that your brain is full of negativity. There is a huge correlation between what we think and feel, and when are struggling or feeling unhappy, our thoughts can be rather dramatic or absolute – such as “I can’t do anything right” or “no one likes me.”…

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What is the therapeutic value of art therapy during the Pandemic of 2020?

December 1, 2020

By Eve Brownstone, LCPC These images came to me in meditation. I call them Guardians at the Gate.  In meditation, these strong bird-like figures were perched on the gate of a medieval castle. I saw them protecting me and humanity from the Invaders at the Gate: Coronavirus.   Invaders at the Gate I spent time painting first the Guardians at the Gate and the Invaders at the Gate. Then I dialogued with these images. I asked what…

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Why Write A Book?

November 29, 2020

By Eve Brownstone, LCPC Why write a book?  We all have a story to tell. Doubts come in.  Do I have a story to tell? I will bore people. I am not a writer. So we convince ourselves that we don’t have a story to tell and we push down our creative energy. I realize not everyone is going to win the Nobel Prize for Literature, but I believe everyone has a heartfelt story to tell and…

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How Can We Make Rational Decisions In Uncertain Times?

November 27, 2020

In today’s world, the level of uncertainty seems higher than ever. With the ongoing global pandemic, wildfires, hurricanes, an unstable economy and a pivotal upcoming election, it can be hard to focus on the mundane tasks of our everyday lives. Despite the world feeling upside down, we’re still expected to continue working, cultivating healthy lifestyles and engaging with family and friends. A question coming up more and more frequently, both personally and professionally, is “is it possible…

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How Do We Use Pity Against Ourselves?

November 24, 2020

Steven Topper LCPC When we’re young, we learn how to gain attention. It is the currency of childhood. Vying for the affection and care of our parents, our peers, our teachers, is not only normal, but it’s also necessary. Through this, we learn connection, communication, and compassion. And often this doesn’t stop after high school. We may often see loved ones working really hard to gain the attention of the people in their world, to mixed results.…

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Why is Self-Awareness Vital to Success?

November 23, 2020

What is self-awareness? It can be used as praise, “wow you’re so self-aware!” or as an insult, “she has no self-awareness.” But what do we actually mean when we label ourselves or others as having or lacking self-awareness? The official Merriam-Webster definition of self-awareness is, “knowledge and awareness of your own personality or character.” In other words, truly knowing yourself internally, individually, and within the context of relationships and the world. Being able to identify how you…

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