You Are a Badass: How Do I Stop Doubting My Greatness? Part II

By: Bridgette W. Gottwald, LPC, NCC

If you read my previous blog post, you were introduced to some of the self-sabotaging beliefs and behaviors that inhibit you from getting what you want. Here is part two of this series that continues to share encouragement and reasons why you deserve to live a life full of meaning that you desire.

Go for It

Watching someone else completely go for it can be extremely upsetting to a person who has spent their entire life building a solid case for why they cannot. Remember this when you are amidst your biggest successes and accomplishments.

Time to open up the space to invite fresh and new beliefs and or experiences into your world that you would love to have within your life. Below are some of my favorite nuggets of truth from Jen Sincero in You Are a Badass: 

• If you want to live a life you have never lived, you have to do things you have never done.
• Receive compliments and let love in.
• Self-reflection is of utmost importance. Look at your life and how you have been letting yourself down, and decide to make a change. Receive compliments and let love in.
• The better your body feels, the happier and more productive you are.
• You will never be a better person for feeling guilty or bad about yourself, you’re just a sadder one.
• A comfort zone is a beautiful place, but nothing grows there.
• What other people think about you has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them.
• No one that ever accomplished anything big or new or worth raising a celebratory fist in the air did it from their comfort zone. So you’re uncomfortable? Good, this should take you somewhere.
• Keep following the right feeling things and see where they lead you.
• Get into the habit of putting yourself out there. You never know what you might learn or when you will meet someone who presents you with the next opportunity.
• Our fantasies are our realities in an excuse-free world.
• Your thoughts and beliefs dictate your reality, so if you want to change your reality, you have to change your beliefs.
• Your new motto should be: I want to see what I can get away with. It makes much more sense to go after life with a sense of “why not?” instead of with a furrowed brow.
• Always let the beginner live alongside the expert.
• Manners are a form of custom; gratitude is a state of being.
• Use irritating situations and people as opportunities for growth, not pain.
• What you choose to focus on will become your reality. Write yourself a better script.
• So often when we are unqualified for something, what we are saying is that we can’t do it or we are too scared to try.
• Procrastination is one of the most popular forms of self-sabotage because it’s really easy.
• If you are serious about changing your life, you will find a way, if not, you will come up with a great excuse.
• Most of the pain and suffering in life is caused by unnecessary pain and suffering we cause for ourselves.

Narratives

Listen carefully to stories you tell with these prompts. Get clear on your own stories of yourself and let go of the damaging ones. Catch yourself in a story by looking at the areas within your life that you are sagging. What are you gaining from these stories anyways?

• I always…
• I never…
• I can’t…
• I should…
• I suck at…
• I wish…
• I want (as opposed to I will and I am)…
• I don’t have…
• One day…
• I’m trying to…

If you are in a place of wanting to change your life, it’s crucial to go from wanting to deciding. I hope this two-part blog series has been helpful as you re-assess your habits with self-talk, optimism, and taking charge of your own life. Good luck everyone!