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There is a certain amount of jealousy in every relationship, even open or polyamorous ones. It is a normal instinct to want to preserve your relationship by making sure your mate isn’t interested in anyone else as much as they are in you. However, there is a point when the line is crossed from healthy jealousy to envy and possessiveness that is detrimental to both you and your partner, and your relationship. The feelings underlying most jealousy…

Therapy is a place where you examine yourself and your beliefs, experiences, feelings, and actions. Your therapist assists you in slowing down and being aware of your thoughts and feelings in order to guide you to more preferred ways of being in the world and in relationship with others. Once you leave the therapy room, the insights you gain should follow you into your daily life. If you find that you struggle to maintain the sense of…

Recent research adds alcohol to the list of gender disparities by highlighting the magnified concerns for women and their relationship with alcohol. At the most basic level, women do not process alcohol the same way men do. Women have less water pound for pound to dilute alcohol in their bodies, and on average, women are smaller than men. Thus, even in small amounts, alcohol affects women’s bodies differently than men’s, and heavy drinking (four or more drinks)…

Many people seem to be interested in mindfulness these days- there are so many self-help books touting it, yoga classes incorporating it, and people talking about its benefits. I admit that I was once a skeptic of mindfulness. Every time it was mentioned, I rolled my eyes and thought to myself, “what a waste of time”. I tried several mindfulness exercises and either felt like a total failure due to my inability to clear my mind of…

Divorce is not only hard on you as the one getting separated- it can arguably be even more difficult for your kids. Studies show that children of divorce suffer side effects, even later in life. Kids with divorced parents have higher rates of depression and anxiety, drug an alcohol use, promiscuity, conduct problems, lowered academic achievement, and pessimism about marriage and relationships that affects their ability to have healthy partnerships in the future. It is important that…

No one wants to get a divorce, and it is an event no one expects to happen to him or her. Unfortunately, people change, things happen, and the decision to divorce must be made in some cases. However, divorce does not always have to be a horrible, drawn-out, hostile and expensive ordeal. Don’t get me wrong; divorce is ALWAYS hard, especially with children. But there are ways to go about it that can be less painful and…

When you have kids, the most difficult part of a divorce is often not the ending of the marital relationship, but the breakup of a family. It can be a tricky road to navigate when children are in the mix. You have probably heard that you should “stay together for the kids”- and this is actually not bad advice! While divorce may set parents free and make them happier, these benefits do not extend to children. Studies…

There are many reasons why people choose to get a pet- and to add to that list is something you might not expect- furry (or hairless!) friends can actually make us healthier. Research shows that having a pet can boost your mental and physical health- here’s how: They calm you down. Petting an animal actually physically reduces stress responses in people. According to the National Institute of Health, the stress hormone cortisol is reduced and heart rate…