My Ex: Why Do I Still Think About Them?
I think one of the most painful parts of being a human is experiencing heartbreak. Grieving the living is complicated and emotional, and when you break up with a partner; you are often breaking up with a life you had planned as well. It is incredibly normal to have your ex on your mind after…
Read MoreAm I Engaging in Maladaptive Behaviors?
To know if you are engaging in maladaptive behavior, first, you must have a good understanding of what maladaptive behavior is. There can be a few different types that can affect your life in various ways. Signs of maladaptive behavior include the following: Avoidance of situations Struggling with assertiveness, not being open with feelings Outbursts…
Read MoreWhy Do I Still Think About My Ex – Breakup Grief
What is Breakup Grief? There is no blueprint for how long, what steps are required, or how you should feel when a relationship ends. Breakup grief is the deep-seated pain and sense of loss felt after the end of a relationship. When you are grieving a relationship, you are not just mourning the loss of…
Read MoreWhy Do I Still Think About My Ex?
Five questions to consider if your ex is living rent-free in your mind Despite the fact that there is no official timeline when it comes to moving on from an ex, it is less than ideal when we can’t seem to shake the memory of this person. Thinking about a past partner or the relationship…
Read MoreMaladaptive Behaviors: What Are They and What’s a Better Choice?
Have you ever wondered if your coping strategies are helping you grow or if they’re doing more harm long-term? Sometimes, despite immediate gratification or relief, our choices for coping are actually causing more of a negative outcome in our lives. We call these: Maladaptive Behaviors. Maladaptive behaviors can start due to a major life change,…
Read MoreWhat are the Signs of Maladaptive Behavior?
As we age and life becomes more complex to navigate, our tendency to engage in maladaptive behaviors to cope with such changes can occasionally increase. We are inclined to utilize our most comfortable skills and habits that help us in getting through the day in the easiest way possible using the least amount of effort…
Read MoreI Feel Anxious. How Can I Cope? Part 3
In Parts 1 and 2, I introduced coping skills and cognitive restructuring techniques. Hopefully, you had a chance to try them out. Now, I will tie this blog series together through a discussion of core beliefs and acceptance. What are Core Beliefs? In Part 1, I briefly touched upon core beliefs. To recap, core beliefs…
Read MoreI Feel Anxious. How Can I Cope? Part 2
In Part 1, I introduced various coping skills for managing anxiety. I hope you had a chance to try out those techniques. Now, I will discuss strategies to understand, challenge and reframe maladaptive thoughts. This approach is rooted in the principles of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) At its core, Cognitive Behavioral…
Read MoreI Feel Anxious. How Can I Cope? Part 1
If you are reading this post, chances are you’re experiencing some level of anxiety. What if I told you that you hold more control over your anxiety than it does over you? Anxiety often feels overwhelming, but it is important to recognize that you can navigate through it. Anxiousness and Control It is natural to…
Read MoreHow Can I Stop Negative Self Talk?
Reducing negative self-talk is not an easy task, but it is possible! Here are some strategies: Embrace Self-Compassion Leaning into self-compassion over positivity is a more attainable goal. While it may seem intuitive to counter negativity with positivity, positive thinking alone might be more harmful than helpful. If you can get to a point where…
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