Spring Cleaning: Taking a Closer Look at Your Division of Labor
An important discussion you should have to help keep the peace in your relationship concerns your division of labor. Household chores are something we all have to deal with, and partners often enter the relationship with different expectations for who is responsible for what and how often a certain task needs to be completed to…
Read MoreThe Fear of Missing Out (FOMO), Stop the Madness!
How often do you check Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, etc.? Do you find yourself comparing your lives to others’ social media posts or pictures and feeling down? Are you afraid that someone is doing something better than you are, having fun without you, or you are constantly missing out on something? Do you think “man, they…
Read MoreJust Do It: Five Tips for Improving Your Sex Life
In our culture, there is a lot of pressure put on us to have good sex and not a lot of room to talk about if our sex life is suffering. Whether you are unhappy with the frequency or the quality of your sex life, you may not know how to talk about it with…
Read More“Get Over It”: What Not to Say to an Anxious Person
When faced with a problem, we naturally desire to solve it. When that problem is a person we love suffering with anxiety, the quick-fix instinct can end up causing more damage and leave the anxious person feeling distant and misunderstood. Although often very well-intentioned, many people end up telling things to anxious individuals that are…
Read MoreDo You Practice Financial Intelligence?
By: Anne Brennan Malec, PsyD, LMFT Many of us may be familiar with the term emotional intelligence, but fewer may be so with the idea of financial intelligence. Financial intelligence is the practice of managing finances and spending in a way that is in keeping with a budget and one’s financial goals. Financial intelligence is…
Read MoreFinancial Therapy
Yes, Money Can Impact Your Financial, Physical, Social, and Mental Health! Money and financial issues can have a significant impact on a person, both positive and negative, in all aspects of their lives. It’s being able to identify when money and finances are causing a negative impact and when it is time to seek help.…
Read MoreWhere is Your Personal Boundary? Finding Healthy Ways to Say “No”
It is naturally unappealing to say “no” in many situations where people we care about or want to impress ask us a favor. Instinctively, we do not want to disappoint or risk having the other person think less of us. Other times we do not want to make the other person feel the sting of…
Read MoreUnderstanding Vulnerabilities and Relationship Communication Styles
I use the term “vulnerability” often with my clients, and many of them sigh at the use of such a therapeutic word. It is therapeutic in the sense that it is a term I learned in my training to become a therapist to describe certain sensitivities inherent to all people, but it is also the…
Read MoreHow are you? No, really, how are you?
“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” ― Maya Angelou One of the primary issues that brings couples into therapy is communication problems. Each person feels that their partner has shut them out of their inner world,…
Read MoreYes I Can! Finding the Key to Your Willpower
When changing a habit or trying a new routine, many people claim willpower as the biggest obstacle to achieving their goal. Willpower is seen as a strength. It is how people exercise control over temptation and exercise persistence to learn new things. It is the conqueror of procrastination and a cherished ally when it is…
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