Lying to Your Therapist
Shannon M. Duffy, MFT, LCPC As a therapist I want to provide a safe place for every individual to feel they can be open and honest as they begin therapy and throughout the process. I am fond of the phrase, “these are four non-judgmental walls” within my office to provide my client’s reassurance. However, many…
Read MoreProcrastination: Why We Do It and How to Stop
I work with many clients who struggle with procrastination. My job as their clinical therapist is to help them understand possible reasons why they are procrastinating things in their life, whether it is in their professional or personal life. Once we figure out why they are procrastinating things, I then help provide possible coping skills…
Read MoreTop Lessons on Love
Relationships and the experiences that we have within them shape who we are as a person. Romantic relationships in particular can be very fulfilling yet complicated at the same time. A satisfying partnership requires a delicate balance of communication, selflessness, knowing how to pick and choose your battles, and knowing when you need to put…
Read MoreGetting Rid of Your Grudges
Tim Herrera of The New York Times recently wrote about the benefits of letting go of your grudges. His findings are summarized below. Chances are, if you were asked right now if you are holding any grudges, you could identify at least one, even if it seems small and petty. It’s also likely that you…
Read MoreHelping Your Kids Deal with Bullying: A New Approach
Estelle Eramus at The New York Times recently wrote about a new approach to bullying; her findings are summarized below. If you are a parent, chances are you’ve worried about the possibility of your kid being bullied or bullying someone else, if you haven’t already experienced it with your child. It’s likely that there was…
Read MoreHow to Beat the Job-Searching Blues
When it comes to our jobs, we are going to experience a wide range of situations and emotions as long as we are in the work force. You may have a job or career that you love, or you may have a job that you are feeling unfulfilled by. And of course, there’s a wide…
Read MoreUnpacking Emotional Flooding
Matthew Cuddeback, LCSW Have you been in conflict with someone and it escalated to the point at which you noticed they were no longer able to take in what you were saying? They seemed to check out of the argument? Maybe they avoided engaging any further, they huffed, folded their arms, maybe they walked away?…
Read More5 Rational Steps to Anger Management
Andrew McNaughton, LCSW, CADC Many of us believe that we are controlled by our anger and that we cannot manage it. It may feel very real in the moment, but our anger can certainly be managed. This is accomplished by identifying, disputing, and improving our self-talk from irrational to rational in five simple steps: Identify…
Read MoreWhere Are Our Values Hiding?
Steven Topper, LCPC For many of us, we know what we want: family, success, esteem, love — this list could go on forever. Many of us also find that when we get these things, they aren’t quite what we expected. Finally got that promotion and it’s not as glamorous as you thought? Get married and…
Read MoreShifting From Short Term Solutions to Long Term Meaning
Steven Topper, LCPC Many people come into therapy looking for a quick fix. If I could just communicate with my partner more clearly, if I could just make my boss understand I’m doing my job well, If I could just defeat this sadness. We think that if we can be given solutions to these problems,…
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