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How Can I Grieve After a Breakup?

April 17, 2022

Amanda Ann Gregory, LCPC, EMDR Certified  The end of a romantic relationship can be devastating due to all the losses that you are forced to experience all at once. You have lost the relationship, future plans/aspirations, financial/physical/emotional support, and perhaps, even aspects of your own identity. These losses need to be grieved so that you are able to move forward. After a breakup, you might immediately begin grieving, or it might take some time for you to…

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How Can I Calm Myself Down? Physical Self-Calming Methods

April 16, 2022

Amanda Ann Gregory, LCPC, EMDR Certified  When you experience intense anxiety, anger, sadness, or excitement, you might need to calm yourself.  But do you know how? Are you aware of the self-calming methods that might work best for you? Self-calming methods are often considered coping skills and are ways of exercising self-care, yet   different methods work for different people. The trick is to discover which methods best meet your needs and are the most effective in…

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How Can I Calm Myself Down? Cognitive Self-Calming Methods

April 15, 2022

Amanda Ann Gregory, LCPC, EMDR Certified  When you experience intense anxiety, anger, or sadness, you might need to calm yourself. Do you know how? It’s important that you find self-calming methods that work best for you. There are physical and cognitive methods for self-calming, and they often overlap (for an account of common methods of physical self-calming, see my blog piece titled How Can I Calm Myself Down? Physical Self-Calming Methods). Try these cognitive self-calming methods in…

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Signs of Emotional Neglect in Your Relationship

April 14, 2022
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Hannah Hopper, LCPC​ Emotional neglect is typically something we think about in association with childhood, but it can also take place in a committed relationship. It’s the absence of enough emotional awareness and response and can be a painful experience at any point in life. Because emotional neglect is invisible, a couple may be experiencing pain in their relationship for many years without fully understanding what’s causing it. In a relationship with emotional neglect, both partners are…

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RAIN: How Can I Utilize Mindfulness During Difficult Times?

April 13, 2022
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By: Bridgette W. Gottwald, LPC, NCC Anxious? Depressed? Worried? Stressed? It happens to the best of us, at least every now and then with all of the many curve balls and unexpected things that life throws at us. Mindfulness exercises allow us to stop what we are doing, take a breath, observe thoughts, feelings, and emotions, and proceed with something that will help us in the present moment. It will result in us tapping into the present…

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The Benefits of Making Space for Anger

April 12, 2022
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Mary-Lauren O’Crowley, NCC, LPC I recently found myself instructing a patient who had expressed feelings of anger to utilize relaxation techniques in an effort to mitigate the emotion. The patient responded by telling me that relaxation, including meditation and deep breathing, had proved useless; they still felt angry, overwhelmed, and worked up. This got me thinking — why are we so quick to fix or get rid of anger? And why must the “fix” involve doing the…

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What is Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria

April 11, 2022
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Mary-Lauren O’Crowley, NCC, LPC  What is Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria and How Does it Relate to ADHD? Rejection and RSD Rejection can make us feel unappreciated or unwelcome. These are natural responses to someone pushing us away or feeling as though we are not valued. While rejection is typically not pleasant for anyone, it can trigger a strong emotional response in people with rejection sensitive dysphoria. With rejection sensitive dysphoria, these feelings can result in severe physical and…

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Can You Develop Emotional Intelligence?

April 10, 2022
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Steven Losardo, LMFT When we find ourselves in the hard places where burnout and stress threaten our whole lives, we need to invest what little we have left into our emotional intelligence (Nasser & Sawicki, 2009; Harvard Health Publishing, 2022). This is one of the only ways to assure our well-being in the future. Being emotionally intelligent ensures that we can grow, heal, and manage what life throws our way without losing ourselves in the process. Put…

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What Will Your Resentment Cost You?

April 9, 2022
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Steven Losardo, LMFT How Do We Define Resentment? One way to think of resentment is when we “feel again (or re-send) the pain or hurt caused by others” (Tylim, 2005). When we are still suffering, resentment refers us to the past, and we project thoughts of an undefined fantasy of revenge into the future (Tylim, 2005). While resentments can provide boundary setting, simultaneously, they break the normal flow of mental life that links to memory functioning. As…

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Is It Love or Infatuation?

April 8, 2022
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By: Danielle Bertini, LPC Whether through movies, television, social media, or any other forms of pop culture, we’ve been given the idea of “love at first sight” and “when you know, you know.” These ideas sound super romantic, but in reality, these two concepts blend love and infatuation, which are two very different feelings. So, What Is Infatuation?  Infatuation is a strong feeling of attraction, fascination, and fixation towards someone, often without actually knowing them that well.…

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