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I work with many clients who struggle with anxiety and/or depression whether it is related to their personal life, professional life, the political climate, the pandemic, or the darker and shorter winter-like days. 2020 certainly has been having a significant impact on my clients’ mental and physical health. Many times, around this year I encourage clients to think about ways to be proactive regarding the “winter blues.” The “winter blues” likely is going to be more challenging…
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Mary-Lauren O’Crowley, LPC Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) is a type of psychotherapy that encourages people to accept and ultimately let go of their negative feelings and thoughts rather than seeking to avoid or eliminate them. It is a mindfulness-based strategy that invites people to push through the unpleasant situation and regulating their internal state while doing so. ACT has been effectively used to treat stress, depression, anxiety, and other medical illness such as chronic pain, diabetes,…
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Have you recently made a mistake? I am sure you have, as I too have made mistakes. I often work with clients about how to cope with past decisions in order to live their life in a meaningful way in the present moment. Many clients tend to ruminate over and over about something they did in the past. I often encourage them to give themselves a sense of grace and/or self-compassion to soothe that anxiety around their…
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Steven Losardo, AMFT Suppose you are a part of your family’s annual Thanksgiving Day argument. In the past several years, there was effort, and hope was that things would be different. Unfortunately, despite your efforts, you still find yourself caught in the drama. Even knowing the annual Thanksgiving Day dispute was in existence a good twenty years before you were on the scene does not seem to change this. In the end, your family ends up colluding…
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As touched upon in part one of this blog post, it is more important than ever to show up for each other and ourselves during this intensely trying time period. Below, I will continue to discuss ways in which we can most effectively be there for those in need, while simultaneously combating compassion fatigue. “When we feel compassion fatigue, it’s because our desire and ability to help are incompatible.” This frequently comes from setting unrealistic expectations for…
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In this new world we’re living, the need for kindness and compassion, both for ourselves and others, is all the more crucial. Whether it’s lending an ear to someone struggling, picking up groceries for someone at a higher risk, or helping to take care of a sick family member, most of us have been in or can relate to these situations. Some days it can seem like everyone wants something from you, which can be incredibly overwhelming…
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Steven Losardo, AMFT The majority of this blog will review cohabitation data in the U.S. The blog will also provide some essential tools to assist couples in areas the data highlights as problematic. Since 2001, family attitudes and values related to unmarried cohabitation have been positive (Reid, 2020). In 2010, Pew survey data noted that 7% of adults ages 30-44 living together were cohabiting. In 2019, Horowitz, Graf, and Livingston provide a Pew data report stating from…
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Hannah Hopper, LPC, NCC With so much loss in our world right now, many of those around us (and maybe even we) are struggling to cope. And yet, when others in our life come to us and are struggling, we often try to focus on the positive things and say something like “look on the bright side” or “it could be worse.” We are a “good vibes only” culture, and when others are truly struggling, we may…
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Jessica Pontis, LCSW It may be safe to say that we all have had those moments, whether by ourselves in our beds or with a group of friends, where we feel completely lonely. This of course is difference from being alone. Being alone is simply being by ourselves, whereas being lonely is a pervasive feeling of isolation. Loneliness can be a sadness associated with this isolation, and feelings of persistent loneliness are often connected with feelings…
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Amanda Ann Gregory, LCPC, EMDR Certified Change is hard. No matter how much motivation you may have, change is difficult to establish and maintain. If you’re trying to make a change in your life and are feeling stuck, you should consider secondary gains, which may be obstacles in your way. Secondary gains are anything that you gain from your current psychological and/or physiological conditions. These gains could be both good and bad. For example, let’s say that…
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